Some people say they have tried therapy and came away feeling it made no difference. “I couldn't get anywhere,” they say. "I felt misunderstood.” "The therapist just didn't get me." "I might as well have talked to my friend." Sometimes they add, almost apologetically, “Maybe therapy just isn't for me.” Often, the problem is not therapy itself, but that a therapist interrupts, reassures, or reframes before listening long enough.   Why Conversations Fall Short In everyday life