People often come to therapy puzzled by their own reactions. They say things like: “I know where this comes from.” “I understand why I feel this way.” “I’ve talked about it for years.” And yet, when the moment arrives, their body reacts as if none of that understanding is available. They snap. They shut down. They panic. They feel suddenly small, furious, ashamed, or overwhelmed. Afterwards, they often turn on themselves. “I should know better.” “Why am I still like this?” “W