Some people are puzzled by their own unhappiness, because nothing obviously bad has happened. “Nothing terrible has happened.” “We don’t fight all the time.” “I should be grateful, really.” And yet something feels wrong. They describe a low-grade unease they cannot quite name. A sense of being smaller than they used to be. Less clear. Less spontaneous. They often hesitate before speaking, worried they are overreacting or being unfair. Because there is no obvious incident to p